I lost someone I loved, but our relationship was difficult. A lot of grief books assume everything was simple and loving. This one made room for anger, relief, guilt, and all the messy parts.

I didn’t know what to say when people asked how I was, and I was exhausted by unhelpful comments. The conversation scripts helped me protect my energy without feeling rude.

I bought this for a friend after she lost her husband. I didn’t want to send another sympathy card and disappear. She told me the book helped her feel less alone, especially at night.

My sister lost her baby, and I didn’t know what to say or do. I sent her this, and after looking through it myself, I realised I needed one too for my own unresolved grief

After my husband died, my brain felt like it had stopped working. The quick index helped me find what I needed without having to think too much. The 90-second reset became something I used almost every day.

It’s been 2 yrs since my son died and I’m still struggling with this every day. This is the only book I’ve found that meets you exactly where you are in the moment, not where you’re “supposed to be”.

No “everything happens for a reason.” Just calm explanations and practical steps. It feels like something written by someone who understands grief brain.

I watched my mum deteriorate to cancer for 2 years. When she finally passed I felt relieved. That relief almost destroyed me. I thought there was something wrong with me. I learned that relief does not equal lack of love. I cried reading it. The first time I felt seen in months.

Going through a divorce after 14 years, I know it’s not death but it feels like it. This book treats loss like loss.

As a nurse I see death regularly and thought I’d be better at handling my own grief when my gran passed. I wasn’t. The practical tools in the book really helped

I’ve tried a few grief journals, but some felt too full of quotes or forced positivity. This one was calm and realistic. It didn’t try to make my loss meaningful, it helped me get through the next hour.

This isn’t a book that tells you to move on. It gives you small, doable steps when grief makes everything feel impossible. I especially appreciated the sections on work and dealing with people.

The anniversary of my son’s death usually knocks me flat. This year I used the planning tool ahead of time, and while the day was still painful, I didn’t feel as blindsided.

I bought it six months after losing my partner, but I wish I’d had it from day one. The panic, sleep, and morning dread tools would have helped me so much in those early weeks.

I bought this for my teenage daughter after she lost her best friend in an accident. She won’t talk to me about it, but I’ve seen her using it. That’s enough.

I didn’t realise how different it is grieving for someone I haven’t met, until I had my miscarriage. I felt really isolated, nobody could experience this loss the same way as me. People were trying to be comforting, but it just felt noisy. The book was my escape, just a quiet companion

I lost my mum last year and couldn’t face reading a full grief book. This felt different. I could open to one tool, do one small exercise, and close it again. Gentle, practical, and not overwhelming.

What I liked most is that it doesn’t ask too much of you. Some days I could only do one step. The book even says that counts. That mattered more than I expected.

I thought I was grieving wrong because I wasn’t crying all the time. The numbness section helped me understand that my body was protecting me. That alone was a huge relief.

The work section was worth the whole book for me. I had no idea how to function in meetings while grieving. The “minimum viable workday” idea gave me permission to lower the bar and still get through.

I lost my best friend to suicide eight months ago. Grief books felt too fluffy. This one didn’t try to fix me or tell me to look for silver linings. It just gave me something to do with my hands when my brain was screaming. That’s all I needed.

this isn’t something I read once and put away, different tools help on different days

My husband died unexpectedly. I struggled to function at the most basic level. The 90-Second Reset really worked. Not perfectly, but well enough to help me survive that night. And the following one.

Honestly I bought it thinking it would be too self-helpy for me. I’m not that kind of person. My brother died six months ago and this really helped

The quick index is the best part. I didn’t have to read from the beginning. I could just find “can’t sleep” or “brain fog” or “guilt” and go straight there. That made it feel usable on bad days.

My best friend died suddenly, and most books felt too intense or too abstract. This one was gentle. I didn’t feel pressured to write pages and pages. Sometimes I only checked a box, and that still helped.

I lost my dog after 13 years and felt embarrassed by how devastated I was. This book never made my grief feel small. The tools worked just as well for losing an animal companion.

I expected another journal full of blank pages and vague questions. This is more structured than that. Each section gives you something specific to do, which helped when my mind was too foggy to come up with anything myself.