Grief Doesn’t Follow Rules

Grief doesn’t follow rules – you don’t need to either.

When you’re grieving, the hardest moments often aren’t the big, dramatic ones. They’re the everyday ambushes:

• waking up with dread,
• feeling panicky for no reason,
• going numb in the grocery store,
• spiralling at 2 a.m.,
• freezing when someone says “Let me know if you need anything,” or
• being hit by a song in the car and suddenly not knowing how to keep going.

This is not a book of platitudes. It won’t tell you everything happens for a reason, that time heals all wounds, or that you “should be strong.”

It’s a use-this-when toolkit – practical, compassionate tools you can open in the moment and actually use.